Saturday, June 23, 2007

Nice Guy(TM) thinking explained

Little Light has a post up discussing an entry at Craig's List (since removed, but you can read the post at Little Light's place) by a creep who helped out a woman in trouble and then was pissed off that she didn't respond to him in the way he believed he had earned. Which led to another discussion of Nice Guy Syndrome. And this wonderful description from Dw3t-Hthr:

It's the "you're not entitled to anything" that has always, in my experience, been the sticking point for the Nice Guy.

The ones I've actually talked with (generally whining on the internet about how they can't get a girlfriend) seem to have this notion of Woman As Vending Machine / Arcade Game. If they just figure out which buttons to push, then Woman will Put Out. And they're pushing the buttons that they're supposed to, but Woman is not lighting up the right little "Score!" buttons. That asshole over there is pushing buttons and lighting the whole system up! Damnit, this Woman is broken! They tried up-down-up-down-left-right-left-right-B-A-stat, too, did someone give them the wrong cheat code? The last woman said that she liked this, why doesn't this woman respond to it?

None of the Nice Guys I've ever tried to talk to seem capable of believing that women aren't issued with a standard cheat code that will open them up to whoever gets the button sequence right. And the cheat code is Their Right, Damnit. The woman is incidental.

Beautifully explained!


Dw3t-Hthr said...

I am tickled by your amusement. :)